Men can be mysterious, especially when it comes to dating. However, there are a few signs that can help you understand if a guy likes you and wants to take things to the next level.
Whether we’re talking about men, women, or gender-fluid people, human beings in general tend to get their wires crossed.
However, if you learn to recognize these signs, you can understand if a man is attracted to you.
1. One of The Signs a Guy Likes You Is He Stares at You, a Lot
When a man is attracted to a woman, he is usually not very subtle.
One of the signs he probably likes you is he will look at your face, watch your reactions to different situations, and maybe even lock eyes with you during a group conversation.
If you find yourself exchanging knowing looks or having “secret conversations” with your eyes, chances are, he is very interested in you.
However, keep in mind there is a difference between staring and ogling.
When a man is crushing on you, they will stare at you—but not just at your breasts or butt.
If a man is ogling your body, he may only be interested in a hookup.
2. He May Act Awkwardly Around You
When a guy likes you or suddenly realizes he has feelings for you, he may begin to act differently around you.
One of the signs a guy probably likes you is he starts stuttering, avoiding eye contact, or being shy all of the sudden.
Sometimes people don’t know how to act when they like someone and they clam up.
This is normal.
If you have noticed a guy you like is acting weird, try to make him feel at ease with you. For example, ask him how life is going, and make the conversation easy for him. Be a friend.
Remember this: you don’t have to be easy, you have to be easy to talk to.
Don’t be easy. Be easy to talk to.
3. He Pokes Fun at Guys You Are Dating or Have Dated
When a man likes you but you’re just friends, you may notice him gently poke fun at the guys you are dating or have dated in the past.
This won’t be in an emotionally abusive way, it’ll be just a little “jab” here and there. “Oh, you’re still dating Chad, the man of many plaid shirts?”.
This is usually one of the signs a guy probably likes you.
At this stage, he may not even realize he likes you romantically yet, but seeing you with someone else somehow bothers him.
4. One of The Clearest Signs a Guy Likes You Is He Is Interested in You as a Person
When someone is interested in you romantically, they will want to know as much as they can about you.
Especially if they are interested in a long-term relationship.
Men who are genuinely interested in your passions, career, friends, family, likes, and dislikes are sending a clear message that you are important to them.
When a man is into you, he wants to learn as much about you as possible.
And since he is asking about you, if you are interested in him as well, you should ask him questions as well.
Otherwise, he may think you aren’t interested or self-absorbed.
5. He Goes Out of His Way to Make You Happy
When a man likes you, he will probably do little things, just to see you smile.
He may pick up your favorite coffee in the morning and drop it off to you. He may request your favorite song when you’re out dancing with your friend group.
Or he may simply send you memes he knows you love or even give you a gift.
A good, high-quality man will want to make you happy, and not cause drama or unhappiness in your life right from the “get-go”.
He will keep things lighthearted at the beginning with small gestures.
From my experience, guy friends won’t do this—unless they are interested in you.
6. He Asks Your Friends About You
This is a big one.
If one of your friends tells you, “John was asking about how you’re doing,” it might be he has been waiting to see this friend to ask about you because you have been on his mind.
This is usually one of the clearest signs a guy likes you.
If he asks your guy friends about you, he might see you as more than a friend.
Usually, guys can read other guys and will call each other out on a crush openly. If he risks this happening, he is risking a bit of ribbing from your guy friends, which means he is very interested.
When we really like someone, we can’t help ourselves but trying to gather information about them.
We want to know where they are. And we want to know what they’ve been up to, if they are seeing someone else, and for how long.
However, keep in mind, some men are just shy, and they may not ask your friends anything.
However, if they do, it’s a great sign.
7. He Gives You Genuine Compliments
If you make a subtle change to your appearance and he notices it and compliments you, he is probably harboring a little crush on you.
Most men who like a woman, like to let her know that she looks or smells nice.
If they’re really into you they may also give you compliments for your character or intelligence, “You’re so kind/sweet/caring/smart.”
If he notices the good things about you, and compliments you, chances are, he is letting you know that he is interested in you romantically.
8. He Remembers Details About You and Your Life
When a guy consistently remembers what you tell him, he might have a genuine in you.
For example, years ago, I liked a guy, and I told him that I had never received flowers from a man before.
A week later, we were hanging out, having a beer, and he left my house suddenly, saying he had to go out.
He showed up at my place an hour later. He had gone around the neighborhood, picking wildflowers (and some from gardens, hehe), and presented me with a bouquet.
Even though I am happily married now, this is a nice memory of a time when a man remembered something about me and used that detail to make me happy.
It was a sweet gesture.
When a man remembers your favorite candy and gets you a bag, or even sends you a meme that relates to something you told him, he is taking mental notes on you.
And he is remembering the little things to woo you. That’s nice.
9. His Actions Speak Louder Than Words
This is one of the most tell-tale signs a man likes you.
I have always believed that actions speak louder than words. If a guy likes you, he will do something about it.
He will be there for you, he won’t flake on you, and you won’t be doing all the work.
It boggles my mind that so many people allow someone they are crushing on to treat them like an option. Just because they feel alone.
If a guy is consistently flaking on you and you aren’t even dating or in a relationship with them yet, they are not going to change. They are destined to disappoint you.
Men sometimes say whatever they can to get you into bed.
So if you hardly know a guy and he’s already sweet-talking you without even knowing you – especially if he wants something – it may be a bad sign.
Men are direct, if they like you and are serious about committing to you, they will consistently be there for you. They will often initiate contact and always reply to your messages.
They won’t just ghost you and pop up days later for sex and without an explanation. This is the calling card of a man who only wants you when it’s convenient for him.
10. He Calls You to Chat
One of the signs a guy probably likes you is he calls you for a casual conversation.
Especially nowadays that we have easier options to use for communication, such as text and direct messaging.
Keep in mind that most younger people prefer to text so if he isn’t calling you yet, don’t take it personally.
He may not like to talk on the phone, like most of us.
However, if he calls you on his break at work, or calls you after a night out with friends to chat aimlessly, he is calling for a reason.
Maybe he misses talking to you or wants to get to know you better, one-on-one.
11. He Makes Plans With You
When a man likes you, he will make an effort to hang out with you.
One of the clearest signs someone likes you is they want to spend quality time with you. In fact, they crave that time with you.
One of the clearest signs someone likes you is they want to spend quality time with you.
He will initiate plans with you, and invite you to chill with him one-on-one.
Keep in mind, if he is only initiating plans that he knows will end in sex, this is not the best sign.
However, if he’s doing many other things that indicate he’s interested in more than sex – like calling you during the day, making an effort, and being consistent – there is nothing wrong with accepting his offer to hang out alone.
12. He Enjoys Doing Favors for You
This is one of the nicest parts about finding someone who cares about you.
When a man likes you as more than a friend, he will offer to do things to help you out – and you will do the same for him.
For example, he may offer to help you install that shelf you got for Christmas or give you a lift home from work.
My parents have been married for over thirty years and when they got together, mom knew dad liked her when he started to come over and help her fix things in her home.
These little gestures show empathy and compassion, as well as a willingness to make an effort.
And when they are frequent, they represent one of the most important signs a man likes you.
13. He Shows up for You
When a man has a genuine interest in you, he may do most of the things we have listed already, but these things aren’t enough to build a solid foundation if he is not reliable.
A good man will show up for you, sometimes even when you don’t ask him to.
For example, if you are playing in a band, showing at an art gallery, or acting in a play, he will come to see you in your shining moment.
He will want to be a part of anything that is important to you.
Then there are the really small but important moments to be there, like when you have plans, even loose ones.
When a guy really likes you, he won’t ghost you or not show up.
He will be there for you.
If he is already flaking on you and you haven’t started dating yet, consider it might be a sign that maybe he’s not that into you – and not worth your time.
14. He Tells You He Likes You
When a man likes you, he will tell you and he will back up his word with actions.
It won’t all be talking because talk only takes you so far.
But he will make an effort, show up for you, and reciprocate your actions to lead to a balanced relationship.
However, when a man is willing to put himself out there by verbally telling you he cares for you, he is giving you a clear message that he is willing to risk rejection to be with you.
When a man does this, it’s one of the clearest signs he genuinely likes you.
15. He Talks About The Future and Includes You in It
If a man is serious about having you in his life, he will talk about the future and include you in his plans.
Not big future plans like children or marriage, but plans for the near future.
For example, he may talk about how he went skiing in Colorado and how awesome it is. And he will tell you “We should go sometime!”
Or he may talk about wanting to try a new restaurant when it opens and suggest that you go together.
This is not only one of the signs a guy likes you, but it also shows that he wants you in his life in the near future and wants to make memories with you.
And making these memories together could possibly lead to true love.
Now That You Know the Signs A Guy Likes You, Remember to Always Play Fair
When you recognize these signs and have determined that a guy friend or acquaintance likes you, be sure to act right away and not ignore his feelings.
If you don’t feel interested in him romantically, I would suggest pulling away for the time being and then having a conversation about his feelings when you’re both ready.
If you are already having sex but he is not being there for you when you need him or is not making an effort to get to know you, take this as a sign.
Unfortunately, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, he probably isn’t the one.
And if you continue to pick emotionally unavailable men, you may want to learn to love yourself more and be more confident.
When the signs are there and you’re vibin’, go for it!
But always make sure he is pulling his weight as you are.
Relationships aren’t always perfect, however, a balanced relationship typically has a balanced beginning.