In today’s article, we’re going to talk about how to succeed in life.
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Most people think success depends on what we do, on how talented we are, or on our luck.
While all these things can have an impact on our achievements, the reality is the foundation of our success is our mindset.
Our mindset — and our core beliefs — can make or break us.
What follows are four mental shifts you have to make if you truly want to succeed in life.
How to Succeed in Life – Mental Shift #1: Focus on Your Progress, Not on Other People’s Achievements
It’s normal to compare yourself to others from time to time. We all do it.
It can be inspiring and it can push you to aim for more in life.
However, consistently focusing on other people’s achievements instead of concentrating on your own progress can do more harm than good.
I love how Deep Patel explained this concept in an article published in Entrepreneur,
“Using others as our measuring stick will lead to feelings of low self-confidence, envy and devaluing your own worth.”
The reality is, when you focus on yourself and your own progress, you are also focusing on something you can control.
You are focusing on something you can change.
And this, in the long term, makes you feel better about yourself, as small wins encourage you to go further in life, to push harder and achieve bigger goals.
Instead, when you continuously look at other people’s achievements, you are reminding yourself you still have a lot of work to do to get there, and that may discourage you — or even make you feel helpless if the gap between where you and the other person stand is too big.
Recommended read: How to Be Successful in Life: 10 Habits of Highly Effective People
How to Succeed in Life – Mental Shift #2: Learn to Find Opportunity in Every Crisis
“In the midst of every crisis, lies great opportunity.”
— Albert Einstein
I love this quote from Albert Einstein, because it’s not only true, but also highly motivating.
If you think about it, every crisis represents change.
And, as Kevin Leyes mentioned in Forbes, “every change represents a new beginning, which translates into the opportunity to start again on the same or a different path, but with more experience.”
Recommended read: Overcome Tough Times: 4 Steps to Become More Resilient
Mental Shift #3: When You Think You’ll Never Succeed, Push Harder
“It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
— Wayne W. Dyer
A friend of mine moved to Paris last year. She was struggling making new friends and at work because she didn’t speak French, but guess what?
She decided to learn the language and practice as much as she could. So she started looking for beginner French videos online to learn new words, going to language exchanges at night, and attending an intensive course on weekends.
See, most people tend to stay in their cozy comfort zone. They don’t have the courage to leave it because they are afraid to fail. That’s why, as Wayne W. Dyer said, it’s never crowded along the extra mile (because few people go there).
Then there are people who don’t stop every time they see a challenge, in fact, like my friend, they do quite the opposite.
Every time you think you don’t have any chance to succeed at something, is the moment you have to push harder.
That’s when you have to choose to become better at what you do, to perfect your skills, to work harder on yourself.
That’s when you have to think, “Here’s where other people gave up, but I’m not going to do the same.”
I like to think that every time we feel discouraged, we are standing on the invisible border between our comfort zone and an unexplored area full of opportunities — the extra mile.
All we have to do is step outside our cozy, warm comfort zone.
Recommended book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
Mental Shift #4: Harness the Power of Dissatisfaction
Do you know what truly successful people usually have in common? It’s something that might sound like a weakness, but it isn’t.
As Brianna Wiest explains in Forbes, what most successful people have in common is dissatisfaction.
This doesn’t mean they live in a negative state of mind; it doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate what they already have and who they are.
It means they know they can do better, and learn more.
So they make an effort to improve who they are, every single day. They never stop learning.
They never assume they’re the best in what they do, but they strive to be the best.
And this is what set them apart from people who achieve temporary success and then lose it. They don’t relax after gaining momentum.
They keep going forward. Quietly.
How to Succeed in Life: Bottom Line
To summarize, the following mindset shifts can help you achieve more in life:
- Focus on your progress, not on other people’s achievements;
- Learn to find opportunity in every crisis;
- When you think you’ll never succeed, push harder;
- Harness the power of dissatisfaction.