You won’t hear a lot about the omega female in the social hierarchy. She’s not in a starring role like the alpha — or even trying to be.
She’s not in the supporting cast like a beta; she’s not the rebel with or without a cause like the sigma. The omega woman is usually something else entirely — the plot twist you never anticipated.
Of course, social hierarchies are a social construct. While it might prove helpful to use them to better understand how you fit into existing social structures, they only define you as far as you let them.
In other words, you are more than your position in social groups.
If you’ve never identified with one of the more popular hierarchies, let’s review the traits of the omega female. You probably have at least one in your life. It could even be you.
17 Traits of an Omega Female, According to a Former Therapist
The omega female holds the lowest position in the social hierarchy. She doesn’t hold power.
She’s not typically a great influencer. However, you’d be wrong if you thought she could ever be insignificant.
Why listen to me? I’m Crystal Jackson and I was a master’s level licensed therapist. I worked with couples and individuals and specialized in trauma recovery and empowerment. I now write content about relationships, self-improvement and psychology. My work has been featured on large publications such as Elite Daily, Your Tango, Positively Positive, and Mamamia.
1. She’s the Smart One
The omega female in your life is the smart one. If this was a teen movie, she’d be the nerd you overlooked until the dramatic makeover montage.
An omega woman tends to be both street smart and book smart. She is always learning and absorbing information.
You want an omega woman on your team for trivia, escape rooms, and basically any game. It might surprise you to know that her cleverness can best even the alpha at times.
She’s a strong competitor because she’s always thinking several steps ahead of everyone else.
2. She’s the Introvert
Another common omega female trait is that she’s a classic introvert. She prefers her own company to crowds of people, and she is often the wallflower at obligatory social events.
She’s friendly, but she just doesn’t love the energy of large, crowded events. And she’s much happier in her own space, curled up with a book.
3. She’s an Overthinker
An omega female has one trait in particular that might not show to the outside world: She’s a chronic overthinker.
Her mind is always turning over possibilities. Unfortunately, this can make her worry more than the average person. She might even have anxiety as a result of constantly considering all possible outcomes.
She doesn’t just look at a situation and take it at face value. She’s constantly considering. She tries to be prepared for anything by anticipating what might be coming.
While this overthinking is a notable trait of omega females, it’s also a trait of people who have experienced trauma.
4. She Doesn’t Fit In
The omega woman doesn’t fit into any particular social group. She doesn’t find that one particular group category suits her. Her personality contains too much to comfortably hold a single identity or interest.
Her ability to speak on a number of topics can make her an outlier in the social structure. She can hang on the edges of any group, but none of them define her — nor does she want them to.
She’s comfortable in her own skin and generally unconcerned about finding a perfect fit in others.
5. She’s Young at Heart
You might notice that the omega female has one particularly interesting trait: She’s young at heart. It doesn’t matter how old she is, she never loses touch with her inner child.
She is unafraid to be silly or playful. She embraces humor and whimsy, and she doesn’t care what others think about her.
You may notice an omega woman jumping in mud puddles or dancing in the rain. She’s wholeheartedly embracing life, and it keeps her young at any age.
You might assume she’s immature until you realize that she easily connects to her joy and isn’t afraid to show it.
6. She’s Got an Old Soul
The omega woman might be young at heart, but she’s got an old soul. She tends to be an observer with much wisdom to offer.
Just as she can represent the maid frolicking in a field of wildflowers, she’s equally the crone dispensing wisdom.
She isn’t influenced by others, and she uses her intelligence to examine problems to find solutions. She’s likely the friend in your friend group who has the best advice but is unlikely the first to speak up to give it.
7. She Hates Small Talk
Another key trait of an omega female is that she hates, loathes, and despises small talk. She doesn’t want to endlessly tell you how her day went and discuss the weather.
She would much rather have an in-depth conversation about nearly any subject. At times, she can an overshare simply because she’s trying to instigate deeper discussions.
This is successful sometimes, but even when it fails, she’s unbothered by it. She’s open to connecting with other people who think like her, and people who aren’t on that level usually don’t stick around anyway. She’s just fine with that.
8. She’s Self-Aware
The omega woman isn’t surprised to learn that she doesn’t hold power in social structures.
She’s self-aware enough to know. It’s also possible that she’s completely uninterested in fitting into a social construct. In fact, her self-awareness is a key trait of the omega female.
Because she’s self-aware, she’s likely to spend at least some time on personal growth. She recognizes that she isn’t perfect but works to improve where she can.
This can make her an excellent partner in relationships. She’s aware of how her actions impact others, and she doesn’t shrink away from accountability.
9. She Keeps Her Inner Circle Small
An omega woman will also keep her inner circle small. She doesn’t need big crowds of friends to validate her existence. She’s happiest when she has just a few close friendships.
It’s not that she’s closed off to new friends, but she isn’t a person who vibes with everyone. She understands that not everyone gets her, but she’s happy with the few people who do.
Because she keeps a small inner circle, the omega woman is a fierce friend. She’s protective of her people and will do anything for them.
She’s likely the person whose advice is most often sought in the group because she has such an interesting perspective on the world.
10. She’s Incredibly Creative
You’ll find that the omega woman is usually creative. She might have a creative job, or she might simply enjoy creative hobbies.
Even if she has a role that you wouldn’t typically think of as being creative, she likely innovates within it.
Her creativity can stem from her intelligence and sense of whimsy, but she sees it as an innate part of who she is.
Her imagination is unmatched, and she enjoys daydreaming when she’s not crafting or being an innovator.
11. She’s Often Single
It might not be surprising that the omega woman is often simple given that not everyone gets her. She has high standards, and she’d rather be happily alone than compromise them.
She often feels attracted to the alpha types initially but might find them too shallow for her. And she often ends up pairing with other omegas.
12. She’s a Hopeless Romantic
Even though she’s perpetually single, the omega female is a hopeless romantic. She believes in the idea of The One.
Because she doesn’t connect with other partners easily, she feels strongly about the ones she does. Even when she gets hurt, she doesn’t stop believing in true love.
She trusts that it’s out there and will arrive when it’s meant to. In the meantime, she wishes on stars and birthday candles and is always open to the perfect meet cute.
13. She’s a Hot Mess
While the omega female has many impressive traits, it must be said that she’s a bit of a hot mess. She’s typically attractive and wise, and yet she is disorganized and a bit chaotic.
Expect the unexpected with her.
Because she’s always thinking at deeper levels, she can see outer order and organization as a bit superfluous.
She’s one of those brilliant people with messy desks and bookshelves and as many tabs open as her Internet connection will tolerate. She might try to organize herself from time to time, but things always go back to their previously chaotic state.
14. She’s Emotionally Intelligent
You’ll also find that the omega female is emotionally intelligent, too. She can read a room well, and she can intuit emotions without being told.
It makes her a compassionate friend and an all-around good person. She’s sensitive to how she treats others because she picks up on the undercurrents.
She’s unlikely to be the kind of person to take her bad day out on others because she’s all too aware of how others are feeling.
15. She’s a Natural Mediator
Another strong trait of the omega woman is that she’s a natural mediator. With her innate wisdom paired with her emotional intelligence and creativity, she’s the perfect person to help resolve a conflict.
She sees the answers and can help you see them, too.
She’s definitely the person you want to go to when you need someone to help you make a good decision or resolve an issue with someone else. The omega woman gives great advice, but she also accepts that people won’t always follow it.
16. She’s an Overachiever
The omega woman is many things, and one of them is an overachiever. She’s not competing for power like the alpha or being a leader like a sigma.
She’s not generally competitive outside of her own personal goals. She just likes to do her best in whatever she does, and it can make her overachieve quite a bit.
Sometimes, this can lead to burnout. The omega woman must take care to have a solid self-care practice in place.
She would also do well to celebrate her accomplishments before starting on the next achievement.
17. She’s Quietly Confident
The omega woman might not hold social power, but she’s quietly confident. She feels good in her own skin, and she knows her worth.
She doesn’t need to have the spotlight to feel good about herself. Her quiet confidence might be one of the first things you notice if you’re lucky enough to notice her.
Not everyone does. Yet, if you’re one of the ones who see her worth, you’ll likely see that her unshakeable confidence is just one of many things to admire about her.
The Omega Woman: In Conclusion
The omega woman isn’t like anyone else. She’s perfectly herself. She isn’t trying to lead the crowd, and she doesn’t even care about the responsibilities of leadership.
She’s a wise person who stays young at heart. She’s a great friend who keeps her circle small — prizing quality over quantity.
And she’s a creative who is thirsty for knowledge. Sure, she’s a bit of a hot mess, but she’s self-aware enough to know it.
In truth, she may never identify herself as an omega woman. She might not see the value in the label. She knows who and what she is, and she doesn’t need outside confirmation of it.
But if she sees these descriptors, she’ll likely recognize herself in them whether or not she chooses to adopt the label.
The social hierarchy might help you better understand how you navigate social situations. It can give you insight into yourself and others. It’s another box with a label, but you don’t have to stay inside it.
You can color outside the lines, learn new traits, and define yourself by many things.
The truth is that you have innate value whether you’re an alpha leading the pack or an omega holding up the end of it.
What matters is how you see yourself. Is it reflective of how others see you?
Is it aligned with your values? All social hierarchy characteristics can tell you is what you know already. It’s where you fit in, and sometimes, it’s where you don’t.