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Feminine Energy: What It Is and 9 Practical Ways to Boost It

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Ever heard about the term feminine energy?

If you did, you probably wondered what that even means. Am I right?

Is it something only gorgeous women have? Is it some kind of spiritual concept?

Well, not exactly.

First of all, to understand feminine energy, it’s important to understand the concepts of leading energy and polarity.

The Concept of Leading Energy

As I explained in another article, we all have a combination of both feminine and masculine energy.

For example, we use our masculine energy when we are pursuing our goals and focusing on our career, while we tend to tap into our feminine energy when we are connecting with someone or talking about our feelings.

However, we tend to be more aligned to one energy over the other.

Also, we attract and feel attracted to those people who hold our opposite leading energy – and this happens because of the law of polarity.

The Law of Polarity

As Tony Robbins teaches, the law of polarity is the principle that everything and everyone has two poles — for example, good and evil, or day and night.

In relationships, there is a much stronger chemistry and sexual attraction when one person has masculine energy while the other one is more feminine.

Also, sexual polarity is maximized when two partners have completely opposite energies.

While masculine energy is about accomplishing goals and making things happen, feminine energy is more about being soft, opening up, and receiving.

And it’s what truly attracts masculine men.

So, What Is Feminine Energy?

Here’s a definition for you:

Feminine energy is an attitude some women have within, which influences their behavior and how they carry themselves. Many describe it as a set of traits which are typical of highly feminine women: nurturing, soft, caring, playful, empathetic, compassionate, vulnerable.

Practical Ways to Increase Your Feminine Energy

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1. Meditate

Meditating allows you to get in touch with your leading energy.

This is the reason why, if your leading energy is feminine, meditation is your best tool to awaken your feminine power.

Also, as explained in Mayo Clinic, meditation reduces negative emotions and increases self-awareness, which is key to radiate positive feminine energy.

2. Take Long Walks

This is something I’ve noticed on myself.

Whenever I walk I feel I’m more in touch with my feminine energy. This probably happens because taking long walks for me it’s like a form of meditation.

And it’s a moment in which I let go of any tension and all negative energy.

Also, another reason why I think walking has this magic effect on me is this: they say that one of the best ways to activate your feminine energy is actually to move.

3. Be Vulnerable

Vulnerability is emotional exposure. And it can be scary, I know.

However, exposing our vulnerabilities is what creates intimacy and trust in our relationships. And it’s often what makes a man want to open up with you as well.

This is why you shouldn’t be afraid of sharing your flaws, past mistakes, and fears with the people you trust and love.

When you are vulnerable you allow yourself to connect with others on a deeper level, and this is typical of people whose leading energy is feminine.

4. Indulge in Self-Care

When you spend time taking good care of yourself and spoiling yourself, you are letting go of your masculine energy and getting back in touch with your feminine energy.

Some ways you can indulge in self-care are:

  • Drink a warm organic herbal tea,
  • Take a warm shower,
  • Take a warm bath and enjoy some good red wine,
  • Indulge in a warm footbath and use some essential oils,
  • Go to the hair salon,
  • Go take a long walk,
  • Take a hot yoga lesson,
  • Get a professional manicure,
  • Get a professional pedicure,
  • Spend a day in a spa,
  • Read a self-improvement book,
  • Write in your journal,
  • Stretch.

5. Be Empathetic

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The most distinctive trait of feminine women is probably empathy.

However, now you might ask, “How can I be more empathetic?”

Empathy is all about feeling what others feel, and making them feel truly understood.

The first step to be more empathetic with someone is stop for a moment and ask yourself this simple question:

“If I were in this person position, how would I feel?”

The second step is to visualize yourself in that person’s position and image how you would actually feel. This will give you the answer to your first question.

Once you understand how the person in front of you feels, you can then express your empathy. Here are two phrases that can help you with that:

“I totally understand how you feel.”

“It makes sense you feel that way. If I were in your same position, I would feel exactly like you.”

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6. Communicate Assertively and Softly

Assertiveness is all about communicating your thoughts and feeling with respect and without violating other people’s boundaries and rights.

It’s basically the opposite of aggressive communication.

Women who exude feminine energy communicate not only assertively, but also softly.

Communicating softly means adding that warm, empathic component, to an already polite and assertive communication style.

Here are a few examples:

  • Instead of saying “Hey, give me my pen back, I don’t know why the hell you never give me my things back!”, try with “Honey, would you mind giving me that pen? Thanks :)”
  • Instead of saying “You’re always so distant, I really can’t stand you, why can’t you just be a man and pursue me?” “I feel you’re a bit down lately, are you ok honey?”

7. Try Journaling

What’s the best way to let go of negative emotions?

Acknowledge and process them. And then let them go.

And one of the best ways to do that, especially if you don’t have someone to talk to immediately, is to write everything down.

When it comes to negative emotions, journaling helps you accept and process them, and let go of your negative energy.

8. Take Care of Your Appearance and Dress in a Feminine Way

The only way to radiate feminine energy is to actually feel feminine.

One of the best ways to feel feminine is, as we mentioned before, to spend some time taking good care of yourself.

However, do you know what’s an even better and more practical way to feel feminine?

Taking care of your appearance and dress in a feminine way.

And I can’t stress enough how powerful this simple habit can be.

So, take a break, go get your hair done, go for that manicure, and why not, buy that beautiful little black dress you saw the other day.

Buy that perfume you love and that makes you feel feminine.

Want to stay in shape? Exercise regularly.

Sign up for that dance class. Drink a lot of water. Eat only whole foods.

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9. Unleash Your Creativity

As explained in an article published in Mind Body Green, the feminine is the creative force. 

And one of the best ways to get in touch with your feminine side is to unleash your creative energy.

Do you like to write? Start a blog. Or write every day.

Do you like to draw? Do you love to cook? Spend more time doing those things. Really!

And make it a priority.

A Quick Recap

If you want to learn how to radiate feminine energy, these nine tips will definitely help you be and feel more feminine:

  1. Meditate,
  2. Walk,
  3. Be vulnerable,
  4. Indulge in self-care,
  5. Be empathetic,
  6. Communicate assertively and softly,
  7. Try journaling,
  8. Take care of your appearance and dress in a feminine way,
  9. Unleash you creativity.


What are the most feminine traits?

Here are some personality traits you can develop or reinforce to get more in touch with your inner girl and awaken your own feminine energy:

  • Soft,
  • Joyful,
  • Playful,
  • Kind,
  • Empathetic,
  • Warm.

What are some masculine traits instead?

Here are the traits which are typical of someone who is more in touch with his masculine side.

  • Purpose-driven,
  • Brave,
  • Independent,
  • Self-reliant,
  • Competitive,
  • Dominant.

What if I have some of these masculine traits?

Even highly feminine women can display these traits when they are in their masculine energy, for example, when they are at work and when they are pursuing their career.

And that is amazing.

However, if you want to radiate feminine energy and attract someone masculine, make sure to step out of your masculine energy when you are in their company. And display your most feminine traits we mentioned before.

I know it may sound unfair. You want to talk about your job, how successful you are, how your day was. And you can actually do all these things.

Just make sure to spend 90% of your time with your guy staying in touch with your feminine side, allowing him to be and feel masculine.

Ask him about his job, his passions, his goals.

Flirt, be playful.

Or tell him what you enjoy doing in your spare time, and most importantly how it makes you feel.

Most men are drawn to feminine energy, and there’s not much you can do about it.

Can I actually increase my feminine energy? How can I do it?

As we mentioned before, you can definitely increase your feminine energy.

Here are the most important habits that can help you feel more feminine – and that you should practice every day:

  • Move, for example, take long walks or dance;
  • Sing or play an instrument;
  • Be in touch with your creative side (write, draw, compose some music);
  • Take some time for yourself and practice self-love;
  • Spend time with a female friend who makes you feel good about yourself, if you can’t see her in person, talk over the phone;
  • Spoil yourself, get your hair done, dress nicely, make sure to wear something you love and that makes you feel feminine.

How can I be more feminine when I communicate with a masculine partner?

Always remember this word: soft.

Be soft. Here are some other important practical tips:

  • Be a great listener,
  • Show empathy,
  • Make your partner (or your date) feel understood, and most importantly not judged,
  • Make eye contact 70% of the time,
  • Don’t talk too loud,
  • Talk slowly.

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