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5 Signs He Genuinely Loves You

5 Signs He Genuinely Loves You

In this article, we will talk about five signs he truly loves you.

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When you’re in an amazing relationship, you hardly ever realize how blessed you are.

I met Jai, my boyfriend, back in 2017. Since then, we’ve had a long-distance relationship for four years, and have finally started living together a few months ago.

I always knew what Jai and I had was special, but meeting other people reinforced just how into me he was. Whenever I meet a friend who’s also in a relationship, I always come back with a renewed belief in just how lucky I am.

I’ve spent several years in unhappy relationships with men who constantly made me wonder if they even genuinely liked me.

Talking to the other couples, meeting an amazing man, and reading a lot on the subject made me realize that if a guy truly loves you, there are some telltale signs.

In this post, I’ve compiled five science-backed signs he truly loves you.

If you’ve ever wondered if the guy you’re interested in is into you or not, then read on for some points that are backed by years of research.


Signs he truly loves you – 1: He does things for you when you least expect them

I remember the days when I used to be so exhausted after coming back from work, that I collapsed on the bed immediately. Jai used to come from behind and massage my neck. He played with my hair, touched my arms, and helped me relax.

I didn’t know I needed a massage to feel good.

However, Jai gave me something I hadn’t asked for, and wouldn’t have thought to get for myself had he not taken the initiative.

This is just one example of doing things for me when I least expect them. And it clearly shows how into me he is.

A reason why a man might want to do things for you when you don’t ask for them is that he’s constantly thinking about you — a common thing that happens when someone is in love with you.

As this article on Insider puts it, when you’re in love, you may feel like you can’t get them off of your mind.

That’s because your brain releases phenylethylamine, aka the “love drug,” the hormone that creates the feeling of wanting to do things to make your partner happy.

A few other examples of doing things for you when you don’t expect them could be:

  • He washes your hair in the shower,
  • Or picks up thoughtful gifts that you don’t even remember mentioning in passing a few weeks ago,
  • Or he brings back food for you whenever he goes out with his friends,
  • He surprises you with a chore or household item you didn’t know you needed, but improves your life nevertheless.

Signs he loves you – 2: He is curious to know more about you

I don’t remember the last time Jai and I only talked about our days or what we had for food.

Our conversations always go deeper. Often, we talk about our fears, motivations, what’s holding us back, and how we can move ahead in our lives and careers.

Before I met him, I wasn’t used to opening up so much about my heart’s desires. But just because Jai was so curious, it helped me trust him and share all the fears that keep me awake at night.

Whenever you have conversations, your man loves you if he always asks the right questions that make you feel heard.

If he’s interested in knowing more about you, about what drives you, then he’s definitely thinking of you as more than just a friend or a date.

You’ll know he loves you when his questions probe deeper than just what show you’re watching or how your day went.

“Connecting with others in meaningful ways tends to make people happier,” says Nicholas Epley, Ph.D., a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business.

If a man’s into you, he will, of course, want to have deep conversations with you. With this, both you and he will be happier — a goal most people have.

Related read: How to Tell if Someone Truly Values You


Signs he loves you – 3: If you’re happy, he’s happy

I’ve lost count of the number of times Jai has introduced me to someone who later became an integral part of my life and (or) business.

He’s also given me Masterclasses courses and useful subscriptions that have helped me in my writing and entrepreneurial ventures.

Before I met him, I didn’t know what having a supportive partner truly meant. But Jai’s enthusiasm about my success makes me realize I’ve hit the “jackpot” when it comes to finding the right partner.

If a man is really into you, he’ll make it his life’s mission to see you do well. He’ll actively push you towards your goal.

This can either be by providing new resources or connecting you to the right people who can help you move ahead.

And his efforts will show results, for sure.

Researchers at Washington University in St. Louis found that people with relatively prudent and reliable partners tend to perform better at work, earning more promotions, making more money, and feeling more satisfied with their jobs.


4: He makes you a part of his life

Jai and I may usually be very busy individually. However, whenever we both have some free time, he makes sure to check up on me and see how I’m doing.

If your man makes you a part of his life and makes sure you know that you’re a part of his, he definitely loves you.

When he’s deeply involved in your life and knows the kind of challenges you’re currently facing, while also sharing enough about his life with you as well, he has some real feelings for you.

When there are no gaps in your understanding of each other, it’s a sign he loves you.

If you have a man like that who understands that love is not just an emotion, it’s a decision you make every morning, here are some other signs he can make you a part of his life:

  • He knows you’re his one true love and he makes sure you know how appreciated you are,
  • Introduces you to his friends and isn’t shy of being seen with you in public,
  • Includes you in trips that he’s planned with his mates,
  • Explains to you what he does at work, so you have a clear idea of the kind of work he’s involved in, the projects that excite him, etc.
  • Takes intentional breaks just to spend time with you so you can do things together as a couple.

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5: He sees a future with you

I remember how happy I was when Jai once told me, “I don’t think life would change much when you and I are married.”

I took it to mean that he was so happy with the relationship currently, that he sees our lives would be this happy, stable, and loving forever.

And that’s why he thinks marriage wouldn’t be a big step. When said to a woman like me who has struggled with commitment issues all her life, this is a bigger deal than my words might be able to convey.

This kind of statement makes me sure he loves me more than anyone else I’ve been with before. His words make my heart melt and fall even deeper in love with him.

Maybe you never talked about marriage or gotten into a conscious discussion about one day living together.

But when your man makes future plans with you, you can be sure he has included you in his vision of the future.

A dead takeaway of this state of mind is when he uses “We” statements and not “I” statements.

For example, “When we have a beautiful house in Paris, we’ll go out every week to sit at a nice café.”

In a statement like this, you can see the other person has included you as a part of their plans, and are definitely totally in love with you.

Day-dreaming about a future together is one of the signs he loves you.

According to an article by Harvard University, when someone is in love, concentrations of the hormone oxytocin increase in the body.

This is the neurotransmitter associated with building more serious relationships, thus proving our point that your man is into you.


Signs he loves you: final thoughts

Adult relationships are voluntary. If someone’s not into you with all their heart and soul, there’s no point in continuing in the relationship.

That said, because of how convoluted modern relationships are, it’s also not always easy to know for sure if a man is into you.

Based on science – and my own experience – here are five signs he truly loves you:

  1. He does small things for you when you least expect it, showing you’re always on his mind,
  2. Is curious to know more about you beyond what you show on the surface,
  3. Feels genuinely happy when you achieve something big, and makes active efforts to push you towards your goals,
  4. Makes you a part of his life by including you in his past, present, and future,
  5. Drops signs that he sees a future with you.

What other points would you add to this list of the sure-shot signs a man is into you? Let me know in the comments.


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